As some of you know who I talk to in real time, my daughter has been having an issue with a little girl at school. They've been at loggerheads since 2nd grade. They just cannot get along, as much as they both desperately seem to want to. A couple of months ago, we went to the school and basically demanded they do something about the issue, as the other little girl had gotten quite nasty, following DD around wherever she went. She would say things about DD to others, and be really snarky to her face. But to everyone else this little girl is sweet as pie. I met with DD's teacher last night inbetween DI and chorus, and she let me know that this other little girl has been coming into their room again, just 'wanting to know how ___ is doing". *sighs* Call me cynical but I have zero faith this child has good intentions.
I do not understand, if you dislike someone so intensely to have said the things this little girl said to mine, WHY would you follow her around everywhere?? WHY would you insist on making sure she knows that you're there? I mean, if my child has been as mean as this little girl says she's been (which it has been proven she *hasn't* by the principal and teachers alike) why would this little girl want to constantly 'be' there? My husband says it's about control and power. I'm not sure I agree, but he has a point. This other little girl has the control, because my daughter doesn't go near her, doesn't play in the same area at recess, and won't sit near her at lunch. It's taken a lot of abuse and nastiness for DD to finally let go, but she did. Now that this bully (and that's what she is!) isn't getting a direct response, she seems to have resorted to *presence*. This logically makes my DD nervous about doing something to get into trouble, and the bully wins, she has the power and the control. It makes me wonder about what kind of person this little girl might grow up to be. I know she's got homelife issues, and I could be sympathetic if it wasn't my kid she picked out. Seems the recent events ramped up after DD announced she was being adopted and getting a new Daddy. Maybe, maybe that's part of it.
All I know is I feel helpless, I'm angry and I'm aching for my child who just wants to be left alone by this little girl. And who wants to be able to make other friends without being scared this little bully is going to show up and say mean things, or just stand there to intimidate her. It's not fair, but there's not much I can do. Except pray for this little girl, her family and her future. I know God watches over my DD, I just wish I could protect her from all these little hurts. I can't and that's what irritates me :(
Hug the kids in your life--they never get enough hugs!
